WTF People!
Since when to the rules of society only apply if you feel like it? Or let me rephrase that. The rules of society apply to everyone, unless you are really passionate about it...then SCREW THE RULES DO WHAT YOU WANT!
If you read my last blog post about the village meeting, you know what I'm talking about. Basic rules are set for village meetings. Sign in or raise your hand, wait your turn and you will be called on to be heard. UNLESS YOUR REALLY PASSIONATE ABOUT IT, THEN FEEL FREE TO YELL AND SCREAM AND STOP YOUR FEET!
People around you having a private conversation...wait you dont like that....then START SCREAMING AT COMPLETE STRANGERS, CALLING THEM NAMES, MAKING ACCUSATIONS!
Ask someone a question and they dont know the answer....PUBLICLY RIDICULE THEM, LAUGH OUT LOUD, LAUGH IN THEIR FACE!
I belong to a yard sale FB page. Basic rules apply and the admin stays on top of things that shouldn't be posted there. Hows it work? You have to much stuff, You simply post a picture, where you located and price. UNLESS YOUR REALLY PASSIONATE ABOUT SOMETHING, THEN FEEL FREE TO SAY SCREW THE RULES AND POST YOUR THOUGHTS AND OPINIONS!
And you can probably get away with it if you simply say,but this is important information that needs to get out. Oh....I'm sorry, I didn't realize that this was important information that had to get out...please by all means tell us all. UMMMMMM....
There are a lot of topics out there that are important. A lot of issues that people are passionate about. Global Warming, Teen pregnancy, Sales at Target, child prostitution. Just because you feel your issue is important doesn't mean that the rules no longer apply to you and you can do whatever the hell you want!
Grow the fuck (sorry mom, I'm really passionate about this) up! We all learned the basic rules of communication, if not in the home, in grade school. We all sat in a circle on the alphabet carpet and were taught how to wait our turns to speak. How its not polite to shout over someone. If Susie is talking and you found out its pudding day at snack, and your really really passionate about it, it doesn't give you the right to start shouting over her. Course back in those day, you would be sent to sit in the corner!
We were all taught the same basic rules of communication...what to do and what not to do. And for the most part, we probably applied them and still do apply them. I mean, if you're out to eat in a restaurant and a waiter trips and drops a tray of food, do you heckle and start laughing at them?
The rules apply all day and every day...They apply to you, and to me, and to the stranger sitting behind you, two seats over.
There is a time and a place to speak passionately. Find it, choose it and use it.
Its not nice to shout over people, or at people, and its never polite to laugh at people.
Look at it this way, your at the bank, apply for a loan, bank dude asks you a question, you respond, I'm not sure, I have to check. ( you dont want to give the bank dude the wrong information!) and he laughs in your face! Would you be appalled???? Embarrassed? Outraged???? I would...but guess what....people did this at a public forum!!!
In hindsight....I would have loved to jump up to my feet, careful not to drop a stitch, turn to those people and chastise them! Be the teacher back in grade school, remind them the rules, have them write 100 times, I will not laugh at people!
Stand up to the bully who laughs at people, who yells at others from the back of the room, hiding...who threatens people. Remind people of the basic rules, the rules we were all taught while sitting on the alphabet carpet many many many years ago.....
JUST BECAUSE YOU FEEL PASSIONATE ABOUT SOMETHING DOESN'T GIVE YOU THE RIGHT TO BE AN ASSHOLE!(sorry mom)
Thursday, July 3, 2014
Tuesday, July 1, 2014
Tonights Village Meeting was....
an eye opener...and slightly scary.
The meeting was of course packed to the gills...and kudos to the people who behaved themselves.
It opened with the Mayor and his opening comments and went quickly downhill as people, two men in the back, one who runs the carymatters FB page and website, started shouting at the Mayor.
This continued throughout the meeting. The Mayor would answer a question someone at the podium would ask and people from the audience would then shout at him. If he didn't know the answer to a question, people would actually laugh at him! Really????? I bet these are the same people that in grade school, when someone got a mistake would shout out 'HA HA' I was quite embarrassed!
These meetings are a public forum. A chance to for the public to speak in an appropriate manner. Not to stand on the playground and shout at others. I understand that this is an emotional topic for some more than others...but please...lets maintain a bit dignity here! You are upset, I get it...then wait your turn and stand at the podium and say your peace. Don't hide in the back of a crowd and shout out. What do you think you will accomplish by doing this? If you want your word to be heard and to be taken seriously, then put on your big boy/girl pants and act like a grownup!
People who hide in the back of a crowd don't really want their opinions heard and taken seriously, they just want to make trouble. To coin a phrase, 'Shame on You'
Now some good points and questions were brought up during the meeting and officially I am still on the fence, although leaning towards the no side...Not because of some of the comments I heard tonight. Such as, I find beer bottles in my front yard, it must be from the apts. Or the police are always at the apts. Apts are the end of the world. But, because I do not think Cary would be getting enough yearly tax money from them and what happens when they flip ownership.
Really people!!! To the people who complain about beer bottles in their front yard and people who park on the sidewalks. People dont usually walk around with beer and drop it in your yard...its thrown from passing cars full of teenagers...and we try really hard not to park on the sidewalk, sorry.
So, the Mayor calls a 5 minute break. The very nice older woman next to me turns and starts asking me about what I was knitting. I begin to respond...only to be yelled at to be quiet as the man who runs CaryMatters decides to call everyone together to speak. Wait what??? I am explaining my knitting to a nice older woman and I'm yelled at to be quiet because some dude who was shouting at the Mayor at the start of the meeting and didn't have the cojones (I don't think mom knows the meaning to that word so I"m safe. LB, don't you dare tell her) to speak during the meeting decides he's important enough to make everyone in the room shut up and listen to him during a recess.
I politely inform the woman who yelled at me, that it is a recess and that I am talking knitting with the woman next to me. It goes down hill from there. She informs me that This Important Man was speaking and I needed to shut up. I informed her again that this was a recess and I could chit chat if I wanted to. It then started to travel a little faster downhill. As KLP came my defense or me to hers, I dont remember, It got a little confusing at this point, this woman yelled at KLP saying that we dont live in Cary, but she quickly amends the statement, pointing at me saying she knows I live in Cary but KLP doesn't. How stereo typical is that. I bet she thought KLP lived in harvest glen cause she's always put together, makeup on, matching....I'm wearing a ball cap, wish it was my bite me one, a shirt, no makeup and knitting. Then, this other woman starts to yell at me. To be honest, I am not quite sure what she was saying. She was large and had crooked teeth and scared the hell out of me! I just kept asking her why she was yelling at me, that I didn't even know her, why is she yelling at me. Big surprise, she never answered me.
I finished explaining the knitting pattern to the older woman, said goodnight to the Mayor and KLP and I escorted each other to our cars out of plain fear!
In a nutshell,
I think it was agreed upon by the trustees that even though its a 'done deal' its not a done deal. They can recall the vote and re vote. It has to pass or fail by a majority. If its a tie, then it reverts back to the previous vote...which is a pass.
My overall opinion of the meeting..I feel bad for the Mayor. He attempted to make an educated decision. Did his research, yes i believe him, why would I not...just because he's a politician? Hey folks, guess what...this is a part time job making peanuts. He's not in it to become President of the United States. What has he to gain by lying??? And I only call someone a liar if they have lied to me.....not just because of the field they are in...If I catch you lying to me, I will never trust you again, if you haven't lied to me, I believe you. Life is much more fun that way...less depressing.
He has done his best, he was laughed at, scorned, called names. Shame on all of you. I really wanted to stand up and ask the question....ummmmm...how many people in this room voted in the last Mayoral election. Whether or not I agree or disagree with someones position on a topic, that does not give me the right to question their character, their morals and their beliefs. We disagree...he does not have ultimate say in this matter. He is the figure head. There were 3 other members of the board who voted yes...none of them were laughed at or called a liar.
To certain members of the Village of Cary
The meeting was of course packed to the gills...and kudos to the people who behaved themselves.
It opened with the Mayor and his opening comments and went quickly downhill as people, two men in the back, one who runs the carymatters FB page and website, started shouting at the Mayor.
This continued throughout the meeting. The Mayor would answer a question someone at the podium would ask and people from the audience would then shout at him. If he didn't know the answer to a question, people would actually laugh at him! Really????? I bet these are the same people that in grade school, when someone got a mistake would shout out 'HA HA' I was quite embarrassed!
These meetings are a public forum. A chance to for the public to speak in an appropriate manner. Not to stand on the playground and shout at others. I understand that this is an emotional topic for some more than others...but please...lets maintain a bit dignity here! You are upset, I get it...then wait your turn and stand at the podium and say your peace. Don't hide in the back of a crowd and shout out. What do you think you will accomplish by doing this? If you want your word to be heard and to be taken seriously, then put on your big boy/girl pants and act like a grownup!
People who hide in the back of a crowd don't really want their opinions heard and taken seriously, they just want to make trouble. To coin a phrase, 'Shame on You'
Now some good points and questions were brought up during the meeting and officially I am still on the fence, although leaning towards the no side...Not because of some of the comments I heard tonight. Such as, I find beer bottles in my front yard, it must be from the apts. Or the police are always at the apts. Apts are the end of the world. But, because I do not think Cary would be getting enough yearly tax money from them and what happens when they flip ownership.
Really people!!! To the people who complain about beer bottles in their front yard and people who park on the sidewalks. People dont usually walk around with beer and drop it in your yard...its thrown from passing cars full of teenagers...and we try really hard not to park on the sidewalk, sorry.
So, the Mayor calls a 5 minute break. The very nice older woman next to me turns and starts asking me about what I was knitting. I begin to respond...only to be yelled at to be quiet as the man who runs CaryMatters decides to call everyone together to speak. Wait what??? I am explaining my knitting to a nice older woman and I'm yelled at to be quiet because some dude who was shouting at the Mayor at the start of the meeting and didn't have the cojones (I don't think mom knows the meaning to that word so I"m safe. LB, don't you dare tell her) to speak during the meeting decides he's important enough to make everyone in the room shut up and listen to him during a recess.
I politely inform the woman who yelled at me, that it is a recess and that I am talking knitting with the woman next to me. It goes down hill from there. She informs me that This Important Man was speaking and I needed to shut up. I informed her again that this was a recess and I could chit chat if I wanted to. It then started to travel a little faster downhill. As KLP came my defense or me to hers, I dont remember, It got a little confusing at this point, this woman yelled at KLP saying that we dont live in Cary, but she quickly amends the statement, pointing at me saying she knows I live in Cary but KLP doesn't. How stereo typical is that. I bet she thought KLP lived in harvest glen cause she's always put together, makeup on, matching....I'm wearing a ball cap, wish it was my bite me one, a shirt, no makeup and knitting. Then, this other woman starts to yell at me. To be honest, I am not quite sure what she was saying. She was large and had crooked teeth and scared the hell out of me! I just kept asking her why she was yelling at me, that I didn't even know her, why is she yelling at me. Big surprise, she never answered me.
I finished explaining the knitting pattern to the older woman, said goodnight to the Mayor and KLP and I escorted each other to our cars out of plain fear!
In a nutshell,
I think it was agreed upon by the trustees that even though its a 'done deal' its not a done deal. They can recall the vote and re vote. It has to pass or fail by a majority. If its a tie, then it reverts back to the previous vote...which is a pass.
My overall opinion of the meeting..I feel bad for the Mayor. He attempted to make an educated decision. Did his research, yes i believe him, why would I not...just because he's a politician? Hey folks, guess what...this is a part time job making peanuts. He's not in it to become President of the United States. What has he to gain by lying??? And I only call someone a liar if they have lied to me.....not just because of the field they are in...If I catch you lying to me, I will never trust you again, if you haven't lied to me, I believe you. Life is much more fun that way...less depressing.
He has done his best, he was laughed at, scorned, called names. Shame on all of you. I really wanted to stand up and ask the question....ummmmm...how many people in this room voted in the last Mayoral election. Whether or not I agree or disagree with someones position on a topic, that does not give me the right to question their character, their morals and their beliefs. We disagree...he does not have ultimate say in this matter. He is the figure head. There were 3 other members of the board who voted yes...none of them were laughed at or called a liar.
To certain members of the Village of Cary
SHAME ON YOU
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