Is my kid a looser kid?

I just dont get it. Today...while I am out running around with c3, Hubby calls me saying that c2 is upset because I had promised she could have a sleepover. I informed Hubby that I had talked to c2 and we had agreed that with her bad cold, she would wait until she felt better. Hubby says ok

So, I get home to find two klingons in the house with my daughter. My husband comes and and says he has no idea who they are, but they are friends with c2.

Well..I never expect hubby to know who the kids friends are. He once turned around in the kitchen and found a kid standing there, and asked, who are you. :) In all fairness, I dont expect him to know who any of these kids are. he's at work all day and obviously doesn't listen to the kids telling their days at the dinner table. >:)

So...Hubby proceeds to tell me that the girls are having a sleepover and that their mom said its ok. Ummmmm....I DONT EVEN KNOW THESE KIDS. Let alone their mom. So, their mom said that her two daughters can have a sleep over at a strangers house. Dont think so!

I know all of the parents that my kids hang out with...I know them very very well..Because when they do have a sleepover, I need to know if there are guns in the house, ( we have shotguns, in a gunsafe and any new child coming over I inform the parents of this), do the parents drink heavily with my kids over, what are they allowed to watch...Yes....I know...one cannot know everything about a family. However, I do know the family of c1's friend that drinks and he has been informed what to do should Friend parent start drinking ( call and tell me he doesn't feel good, friends parent is working on recovery) I know that other friend gets to watch movies that my kids wouldn't be allowed to, but friend is the last of the kids, so as those of us with more than two know, the yougest gets away with more :)..

So, I try to get to know friends parents. They have the lives of my children in their hands and visa versa for those dozen or so hours. I want to know that they will be treated with love and care as if they were their own.

So...(stepping off of soapbox...oh wait...never mind) So.. I let them stay and play for a while then shoo them out as C2 has piano lessons(her first lesson) and tell them that C2 will call when we get back.
After lessons, I tell C2 that she has to cancel the sleepover as she is not feeling well, and after some tears and arguing, does that work, she agrees.

So I get home, am informed that C1 is going over to friend (parent drinks but is in recovery) and so, i hop in car and take him over. On the way back, I notice c2 two friends walking down the street in our direction with walmart bags. Nooo...I say to myself..

So I pull over and ask whats up. Well, they were coming over for the sleepover. Ummmmm...Hello??? I said we would call. And I still dont know parent. So, I offer them a ride home, yes they get in the car with a virtual stranger. I pull up and there is mom...she says, oh to early. Ummmmm Hello??? I inform her that its not going to work as C2 is sick. She says ok. Umm hello????? Didn't even introduce herself to me. Does she even know where i live???

So I drive home and now have to figure out how to discourage C2 from hanging with this girl and her sister because it will so NOT ever happen.

I will not allow my children to hang out with looser children. Oh...so dont take offense to this statement! We all know who we are talking about. Its not the kids fault. its the parents. and we all know these kids.

They are the kids out at all hours with no parental supervision ever! They wander the neighborhoods, are always dirty, (different dirt..C3 is so filthy right now) But the dirt that is days and days old. They are crass, almost no manners...And their parents let them go on sleepovers without ever meeting the parents.

So....I wont let my kids hang out with those kids. but...those seem to be the only kids that c2 keeps wanting to hang out with.

Its not for lack of trying. When she was younger, she would call people all of the time from the school phonebook looking for play dates. No one ever and I mean EVER returned her phone calls. No one ever wanted to play. Why? I have no idea? Is she not socialzed enough? Is it because she doesn't play with dolls? She has never gotten into Barbies. Oh well. I tried..I have a $100 dreamhouse in the attic that was never played with.

Does she not have cool enough toys? Tough. I dont believe in buying my kids whatever they want. I dont buy designer clothes for my kids. I will not spend $50.00 on a pair of shoes that they will outgrow in a week or two and they never tie the damn laces.

her teacher doesn't understand it either. She asked me if c2 has any close friends, I said no, and teacher says but she gets along with everybody. She can talk and hang out with an adult or a 2yr old. Or anywhere in between.

So, what is it? She's not cool enough, doesn't have the coolest toys, doesn't go on exotic vacations, isn't spoiled rotten?? So she has to hang out with the looser kids?

Wanted: Playmate for my daughter,
She is a wonderful person, ready to help anyone, asked or not. She knits, she croches, she cross stitches. She can shoot a great basketball. She can swim like a fish and loves to jump off the boat into the water. She is the best bass fisherman (woman) in our family. She jumped two grades in reading, gets herself up and ready in the morning before I am even out of bed. Loves to go camping, loves to go hiking, loves to ride her bike! She plays a mean game of ice hockey. She can talk to anyone, loves to talk on the phone. Loves to have her nails done. Loves to have her hair done, Loves to dress pretty.
Requirements. Someone who just loves to play and be themselves. Someone with responsible parents.

So...Am I asking to much? Why do I have to ask at all. Why do I have to find a playmate for my daughter. Why does she have to be so lonely?